I remember watching a TV show where a very recognizable star from the seventies had a small part in the story. It was just a “walk-on” part with a line or two, and then they were gone. I remember it well because I commented to Joyce that the person had once had their own series and now they were playing bit parts on the series of someone who probably wasn’t even born in the seventies.
This past Saturday night I attended my son’s 40th birthday party in Nashville with about 50 of his friends and family. His band got back together to do 5-6 songs and everybody took turns sharing their favorite stories or memories or questions about him. It was so wonderful to see how he had so many friends who loved him and respected his huge heart. Yes, I wiped away tears several times.
But then my self-centered self kicked in and I noticed that no one was there to talk about me or Joyce and the wonderful job we did raising Jason. No one was watching to see how we reacted to the many praises, tender moments, and laughs he received. It was as if Jason was the featured attraction of the evening, not us.
That’s when I realized: it was about him. Our time to be center stage with all of our friends and generation, is passing, and now it’s their turn to lead. Now they have taken on the task of changing the world, and making a difference; and my generation will have the “walk-on” parts, or might even be extras only used every now and then.
But that’s the way it works. That’s the way each generation passes on the leadership role: we give what we have to our children, and then pray that they will pass it on as well. To some degree, they must increase as we decrease. They must assume the lead roles, while we slowly assume the "walk-ons". It’s not a bad thing; it’s actually a good thing to know that there are capable ones to whom we may pass “it” on- like my son and his wife Renee. They both have huge hearts and a desire to change the world. I have every confidence in their stepping into lead roles and doing what needs to be done to make the world a better place.
One day Jason and Renee will be at a party for Emerson or Emma; and they will be introduced as Emma’s Dad or Emerson’s Mom, “walk-ons”. They will smile at the young faces, then find a place to sit and watch as the world continues. And that’s a good thing.